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Medical professionals often remark on how helpful family members and friends can be in reporting changes in depressed patients' symptoms and ensuring that patients consistently take their prescribed medication.

Families need to work together in managing treatment, since mood changes and behaviors affect the whole family, and many issues are involved in treatment. Ways in which you can work as a team are to:

  • Partner in treatment. Medications take up to 4 to 6 weeks to take effect, the dosage may need to be adjusted, and medications often need to be changed. You can help your depressed family member or friend by scheduling and tracking medications, making medical appointments, and reporting changes to the medical professional.
  • Be understanding. Let your depressed family member or friend continually know that you care. Depressed people need to be reminded that many people are concerned about them.
  • Learn about depression. The more understanding you have of the symptoms and issues surrounding depression, the more you can cope, help, and keep your expectations realistic. Review books, brochures, Family Profiles (see, and videos on a variety of depression topics.
  • Share your feelings as a family. Since depression affects the whole family, it is important for everyone to share their feelings, both the depressed person and caregivers. By talking about issues and emotions, you can uncover what works and what is not helpful to one another.
  • Meet with the depressed person's doctor. Meeting with the medical professional from time to time can be very helpful, if your family member or friend with depression will agree to it. You can gain a good understanding of the condition and discuss issues together.
  • See a family or couples therapist. Marriages in which a spouse has depression have a much higher likelihood of ending in divorce. Couples therapy can help restore relationships by addressing resentful feelings and honing communication skills. In addition, children with depression in the family need support and ways to become resilient to developing depression themselves. Family therapy helps children understand that they didn't cause the depression, discuss their feelings, and learn coping mechanisms.
  • Develop a crisis plan. Talk to your depressed family member or friend about what you will do if there is a crisis, under various circumstances, and where you will take the person. Put the plan in writing.
  • Create a support system. Try not to take on caring for a depressed individual all by yourself because it is a difficult task and can bring you down. Talk to other family members about sharing responsibilities.
  • Seek immediate help. If at any time your depressed family member or friend talks about death or suicide or may be harmful to you or others, seek immediate help. Contact your doctor, go to your local emergency room, .

Questions for the Psychiatrist

A good way to partner in treatment and provide emotional support is to go to appointments periodically with the depressed person. You can keep track of the clinician's recommendations, discuss changes in symptoms, and review the treatment plan.

Before you see him
•    What types of patients and conditions do you currently treat in your practice?
•    What do you do when you are unsure of a patient's diagnosis or treatment?
•    How do you involve families and friends in treatment?

During the visit
•    What is the possible diagnosis at this point?
•    How definite is this diagnosis? If not definite, what are the other possibilities?
•    What your recommended treatment (e.g., medication, psychotherapy)?
•    What are the expected results of treatment?
•    What signs should we look for that indicate the therapy is working?
•    How soon will we see these signs?
•    What will you recommend if this course of therapy does not work?
•    Why have you chosen this particular medication?
•    What are the risks and side effects of the medication?
•    Is this a case that you normally treat and that is within your practice capabilities?
•    What role can we play in helping with treatment?
•    Which days and times are best to reach you?
•    Who can answer our questions as they come up and when you are unavailable?
•    What have your been your experiences with our insurance company and how can we facilitate the reimbursements?
•    Do you recommend that we get a consult with another psychiatric specialist?

If treatment is not working
•    Is there something else we need to be doing?
•    Are there any issues that may contribute to our family member or friend not responding to treatment (e.g., noncompliance with medication)?
•    How can we help in getting treatment to work?
•    Should we get a second opinion?

Helping Someone Receive Treatment             

 Families and friends often are unsure how to convince their loved ones to see a medical professional. In a compassionate way, explain to the person that you are concerned that he or she is showing symptoms of depression, a treatable medical condition. Often, people with depression feel very relieved to learn that they are suffering from a medical condition. Ask the person to see a medical professional, offer to make an appointment, and go with the person or call the doctor in advance to state the person's symptoms.

Helpful tips

  • Show you care. Depressed people feel isolated in their pain and hopelessness. Tell your depressed family member or friend how much you and others care about the person, want the person to feel well, and are willing to help. Listen and sympathize with the person's pain.
  • Acknowlege the relationship impact. In a caring way, let the person know that depression affects you and others in the family. Your relationship, including intimacy, household responsibilities, and finances, are all adversely affected when someone is depressed.
  • Be informed. Read a brochure, Family Profiles (see, or a book, or watch a video on depression and share the information with the depressed person. Stress that depression is a treatable, medical condition, like diabetes or heart disease, not a sign of weakness. Assure the person that people with depression do feel better with treatment.
  • Use a symptom list. Go through the depression symptom list with the person who is depressed or have the person take a confidential evaluation that will guide him or her toward medical help. Take the symptom list to the appointment for discussion with the medical professional.
  • Reach out. Find other people to help you get your loved one into treatment, especially medical and mental health professionals such as your primary care physician or a psychiatrist, psychologist, or social worker. Think of others to whom the depressed person will listen, such as family members, relatives, teachers, friends, or a member of the clergy, then enlist their help.
  • Seek immediate help If at any time your depressed family member or friend talks about death or suicide or may be harmful to you or others, seek immediate help. Contact your doctor, go to your local emergency room, or call SADAG 0800 12 13 14

What not to do

People with depression are suffering from a medical condition, not a weakness of character. It is important to recognize their limitations.

•    Do not dismiss their feelings by saying things like "snap out of it" or "pull yourself together."
•    Do not force someone who is depressed to socialize or take on too many activities that can result in failure and increased feelings of worthlessness.
•    Do not agree with negative views. Negative thoughts are a symptom of depression. You need to continue to present a realistic picture by expressing hope that the situation will get better.

When your help is refused

Often when you try to help someone who is depressed, your help is declined or nothing you do seems to help. You end up feeling rejected and discouraged that there is nothing more you can do.

Depressed people may reject your help because they feel they should be able to help themselves, and feel worthless when they can't. Instead, they may withdraw or start an argument in an effort to resolve their difficulties. In addition, people with depression have negative thoughts and feel so hopeless that they do not see recovery as a reality.

Fifty percent of people with bipolar disorder have a lack of insight, so they do not realize they are ill. For example, people with bipolar disorder may believe they are a "high-energy person." This makes family involvement in seeking and managing treatment even more critical.

With these difficulties in mind, what can you do if your help is turned away?

  • Provide consistent support. Over time, if you consistently show support, the depressed person will see that you are resolute and may accept your help. Continue trying some of the tips discussed in this section.
  • Discuss your feelings. When your help is refused, restate how much you care for the person. Let the depressed person know how you feel, gently, by stating an example of the support you have offered and how it makes you feel when it is rejected.
  • Focus on behaviors. If the depressed person is reluctant to seek help, then don't try to convince the person that depression is causing the problems. Instead, talk about the depressed person's behaviors and the ways in which treatment can help. For example, after you have listened and sympathized with the depressed person's feelings, try to agree on wellness goals (e.g., consistent sleep and feeling less irritable). Then, try to assign some action steps that you can agree on to reach these goals (e.g., after two weeks, if the person does not improve, you will set up a medical evaluation).
  • Agree on professional help. It is important to make sure your loved one gets the professional help he or she needs. Sometimes a primary care physician can seem less threatening, or a psychotherapist, or a couple's therapist.

Helping someone who is depressed and reluctant to seek treatment can be very trying and frustrating. As much as possible, try to enlist the aid of family members, friends, and medical professionals in this process.

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