By Jerry Nelson
As a former alcohol and drug counselor, I had to help conduct interventions frequently. They were always simple. They were never easy. The friends and family of the addicted would gather. My first challenge was to help them see and comprehend the wild idea that they actually were not to blame.
Interventions still happen. They occur frequently. The familiarity of interventions doesn’t take away the scariness. Maybe this article will help.
Whether it’s your son who is a shadow of their former self or your spouse’s vodka that endangered you and the children; you understand that alcohol treatment is the only way to save them.
Can you prepare them for treatment if they aren’t willing to go?
One frequent tale about dependence says someone must be willing to start therapy for the program to work. The truth is: many addicts want recovery because family and friends saw the dilemma and took the actions needed to get them into treatment.
It won’t be smooth. It can be challenging. But this is their life; supporting them as they get into treatment may be the only chance they’ll have to successfully fight their addiction.
There are things you can do to get your loved one into treatment:
Educate yourself. Begin by learning about addiction. Find a support group like Al-Anon where persons may be willing to guide in locating resources. They’ll be ready to share their own experience strength and hope, so you know you aren’t alone.
An intervention is a useful tool in getting someone into treatment. An intervention is simply a meeting of family and friends to show the addicted how the alcoholic’s problem has impacted their lives. An intervention doesn’t physically force someone into treatment, but it gives the addict a clear picture of what occurs each time they get high or drunk.
Have a Plan
Frustration can lead to the desire to have an unprepared intervention. Even though it is well-intentioned, lack of preparation can ruin the effort and sink it. Effective intervention means everything from inviting family and friends to providing the addicted with transportation must be thought out ahead of time. Participants need to describe the results if the addicted refuses to go for help.
Tell the addict how their addiction affects you. Use “I” statements. Make a maximum impact by clearly describing your concerns.
No Idle Threats
Don’t enable the addicted by giving empty warnings. The decision to start treatment or not is the only choice your loved one has. If the intervention winds up and the addict or alcoholic decides not to enter treatment, the outlined consequences need to start — right away. For instance, if you said you won’t provide any more financial support, then don’t give them any money from that moment on. Yes; it’s tough love. It may be as hard on you as them. But making idle threats will only teach the alcoholic that you’re not serious.
At the end of the day, getting a loved one into treatment isn’t easy — but their survival is worth the struggle and effort. Start making plans today.