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SPEAKING BOOKS

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Literacy is a luxury that many of us take for granted.  We depend on written communication for information, guidance, and access to heath care information That is why SADAG created SPEAKING BOOKS and revolutionized the way information is delivered to low literacy communities. It's exactly what it sounds like.a book that talks to the reader in his or her local  language, delivering critical information in an interactive, and educational way.

The customizable 16-page book, accompanied by local celebrity audio recordings, ensures that vital health and social messages can be seen, heard, read and understood..

We started with books on Teen Suicide prevention , HIV, AIDS and Depression, Understanding Mental Health and have developed over 30 titles, such as TB, Malaria, Polio, Vaccines for over 30 countries.

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PATIENTS AS PARTNERS

PHOTOCOPY FOR YOUR PATIENTS Brought to you by The South African Depression and Anxiety Group Tel: +27 11 262 6396 Fax: +27 11 262 6350 E-mail: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. website: www.sadag.co.za But it makes you tough... doesn't it? Everyone goes through it... right? The myths and truths behind bullying and self-esteem. "I saw a 10-year-old boy for a persistent gastro-intestinal complaint and was chatting to him about what he liked and general "guy stuff". When I asked him about school, everything changed. I noticed he didn't make much eye contact anymore, even though I have known him his whole life", says Johannesburg-based GP Dr van der Merwe. "When I asked him his favorite hobby was - drama, he hated rugby, but wanted to be on stage." And that's when the tears came. There were children at school who were calling him names and picking on him, he was being teased, even physically pushed around, because he wanted to act rather than play a sport. And it was getting worse. Timmy* was not a tough kid, not a child who liked to 'rough-and-tumble'. "His father was concerned, worried there was something wrong because his son wasn't 'like other boys'. He encouraged the taunting at school, told his son to fight back, even enrolled him in a Judo class. This hurt Timmy far more than what the bullies did to him every day", says Dr van der Merwe. Bullying is on the increase in South Africa. Even more frightening is we tell our children to expect it - and accept it - because "kids will be kids''. Bullying is abusive behaviour by one or more people against a victim. It can be a direct physical attack like teasing, taunting, hitting, punching and stealing or it can be more subtle and malicious through gossiping, spreading rumours and intentional exclusion. The result is the victim becomes socially rejected and isolated. Physical or psychological intimidation creates an ongoing pattern of harassment and abuse - the vicious cycle of bullying. A basic but good 'definition' of bullying is: it's bullying if someone is hurting another person on purpose, and the person who is doing it has more power. If a child or teen ever feels scared, alone, threatened, or is hurt physically and the person who is causing that reaction is doing it maliciously - it is bullying. Bullying elicits strong and very personal reactions - yet far too many adults, even though they may identify with the torment, say and do nothing to stop it. Bullying can happen to anyone and it is never the victim's fault. "Parents often feel angry and powerless - but there are things you can do", says anti-bullying site founder (respectme.co.za) Janine Shamos. "Bullying decimates a child's self-esteem and their view of themselves as they internalise negative perceptions the bully has of them and believe that they have no worth. It's very important to get your child counselling to boost his self-esteem and teach him coping and resilience skills - sadly there are bullies everywhere, at every stage of life." The South African Depression and Anxiety Group offers toll-free telephonic counselling for anyone in crisis on 0800 567 567 or SMS 31393. SADAG also offers referral to experts - psychologists, psychiatrists, and Support Groups. Bullying is very often highly traumatic and children and their parents need counselling, advise and support - and SADAG can offer this. Children and teens typically don't tell adults about being bullied as they feel that intervention is infrequent and inconsistent and will only make matters worse. Also many children feel that teachers and parents see bullying as a harmless rite of passage that is best ignored, as it will pass naturally This is not so. It takes a special type of person to intentionally cause pain to others. The way we understand bullying has changed, and anyone working with children, whether as a paediatrician, a GR a therapist, needs to accept that bullying has long-term consequences, it is preventable, and you are in an ideal place to recognise symptoms of a low self-esteem. Physical complaints are common in children who are bullied or who have low self-esteem. Many of these have no medical cause. In fact, UK research has shown that a terrifying 5% of all children's appendectomies have no organic cause. Bullying often results in the child believing the bully's view of him and the child starts to see himself as worthless. There are signs you can look out for that point to a low self-esteem. Children with self-esteem problems generally show it through their behaviour in one of two ways: through over-control, or wider-control. A child who over-controls his behaviour will typically be shy, withdrawn, clingy, fearful and timid, are socially isolated, are perfectionists or apathetic about work, and don't take risks. Those children who under-control their behaviour are typically aggressive, violent, arrogant and boastful, won't co-operate when asked to do something, blame others for their mistakes, and generally make life difficult for adults and other children. These bullies are much harder to see as 'victims'.Yet they are. Many bullies try to make themselves feel more important because of their lack of self-esteem. When they pick on someone else, it can make them feel powerful. Bullies often pick on someone they think they can have power over - they might pick on kids who get upset easily or who have trouble sticking up for themselves. Sometimes bullies pick on someone who is smarter than they are or different from them in some way
 

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